Understanding Life’s Lack of Control
At some point in life, we realize our control is limited, both in our lives and in the lives of loved ones. Unexpected events can shake our world, leaving us shocked and uncertain about how to adapt to the ‘new normal.’ Health challenges often follow a similar pattern—gradually creeping into our lives until a crisis suddenly arises.
The Nervous System’s Response to Crisis
A crisis puts your nervous system on high alert. It’s a natural response. Cortisol levels increase, blood pressure rises, and the mind goes spinning in many directions, often negative ones. It’s as if you are suddenly thrown into a tornado, and everything around you seems topsy-turvy. When you get into this state, several things can happen. You start to descend into depression to escape the current reality. You lean on substances like alcohol, narcotics, or anything to numb you so you don’t have to deal with reality. You think, talk, and dwell on the situation endlessly, draining your life force.
Strategies for Regaining Control
If you have ever been there, you know it is hard to dig yourself out of a situation where you lack control to make things better or make it go away. Here are 5 strategies that have helped me recently when I received the news that a dear family member’s health took a dangerous turn. I hope these strategies can help you navigate through the rough waters of life’s storms so that you can find the inner calm that you need to remain strong, resilient, and helpful when things go awry.